Anyways, I am petrified because there is a likely probability that in near future even my independence will be endangered. Right now, I am happy about the way I am living my life, I go to places where I feel like going to, I watch the movies & TV channels which I like to see, I keep my place the way I want to keep (This is difficult but still managable when you are sharing the room with a disciplined & (Beyond necessity) hygiene concious room mate.) I go back to home when I want to. I eat food which I like & when I want. I love the fact that I am not responsible for anyone except of course for a small family of mine, I like to make my own decisions. I love this independence and any kind of intrusion just freaks me out.
In a way, conciously or unconciously I have started to prepare myself for this inevitable Yin-Yang union because friends & most importantly my family think that I make a good matrimonial proposition (Or may be a Sacrifical Goat???) for the following reasons:-
1. 26-27 is the best age to get married and I am now 25.
2. Most people think that I have a stable career ahead even though personally I desire a lot to be conquered.
3. My financial status is sound.
In my preparation attempts under the effect of feelings such as confusion, fear, excitement! (Each of these feelings has their own valid reason for eg. fear of jeopardizing independence, excitement of honeymoon), just out of curiosity, I refered to Freudian psychoanalysis theory in an anticipation to learn about "What does a Woman want?" but eventually I learnt that even the legendary Sigmund Freud mentioned the following quote to one of his friend
"The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is "What does a woman want?"
I know you folks might call me weird because, for preparation, most guys study "SCIENTIFICALLY" more about revered "Kamasutra". (I just thought I should mention the word "SCIENTIFICALLY" because before marriage, guys witness only the "raw action" through different mediums such as black market CDs, under the bed magazines & forbidden sites on internet, and few lucky ones get to experiment with the action.)
Anyways, there is also a deeper understanding that marriage is not a mathematics where you calculate what you will gain and what you will lose, but it's a need for human beings with a social nature; where two people share their lives by accepting & complemeting each other towards a harmonious co-existance. The most important criterion for me, is that the woman of my dreams is the one who will accept and love me the way I am, not for the way she wants me to.
We often underestimate the virtue & value of time despite the fact that it is the greatest gift to this universe & the cause of our existence. It is the motion of a wheel without which a wheel has no meaning. It is the creator when everything begins with it and it is the destroyer when everything ends with it.
One wise gentleman has said that "we can solve 4/5th of our problems in a fraction of time that we normally would take, if we can just sit and introspect".
And in this time, I find my true friend, solitude. Solitude is my truest friend, where my thoughts get a chance to be in sync with the nature and my imagination gets an opportunity to spread its wings beyond earthly subjects & objects. Solitude gives me "TIME TO SIT & RELAX". It allows me to be "100% MYSELF". It helps me to learn, to reflect, to concentrate, to meditate, it guides me to make right choices. If offers me shoulder when I am in pain & suffering. It is in this time, when I talk to myself, I laugh at myself, I think. I understand the responsibilities. I "CHALLENGE MY BELIEFS". And most importantly, it offers me a "PEACE OF MIND". This is the time when I see "HOPE". Loneliness is imposed but Solitude is a choice. Loneliness is about restlessness but Solitude is about rest. Solitude is not an act of cowardice but it's an act of courage, to challenge, to understand, to act. It's a window of opportunity towards the perfection.
This is what I intend to do in times of crisis. I want to use this eternal gift of time to change its state from Bad to Good. I want peace.
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In a practical realm, every situation is the sum of its empirical pros and cons. In my opinion which is from a Utilitarian’s Point of View, any action taken is on finer side if it; in terms of Value Addition, provides significant gains to the majority, without any significant harm done to the minority. We just can not blindly apply “IDEAL RULES” to any situation. Weighing down pros Vs cons vis-à-vis the bigger picture, should decide the course of action. After all, it is all about understanding the bigger picture in terms of pluralistic good and making the right choices to strike a balance on the finer side and if it involves things against ethics - established good practices that is what I would call them, then outcome of the situation and its longer term repercussions should be well thought of and given the highest priority & weightage.
For example,
1. We have laws to execute a serial killer and we did and are practicing the laws, why? Because we are talking of killing someone whose life can cause greater harm to society than his death. A perfect example would be “Geeta” (Guys, stop guessing, I am talking about “Bhagwad Geeta” (Song of the Lord)), to establish a kingdom of good deeds, Lord Krishna coaxes Arjuna to kill his relatives & kins.
2. We often end up bribing the decision maker in a business environment, why? Because if you won’t, you might not be able to generate & bring business to your organization and 100-1000s of your fellow employees working around the globe will lose their job.
3. How about talking profit at any cost? Highly expensive medicines could be an example here. AIDS drugs are expensive and unaffordable in African nations where the people afflicted have no money to buy food. But still big pharmaceutical companies (which I won’t name, since this is a public domain. To know more about them, please follow WTO Patent Rights Negotiations) want to make big bucks out of their patented or invention rights. So is it wrong if a country like India producing the same drugs in bulk by violating patent rights to supply to its own AID victims & surplus to African Nations to combat the AIDS epidemic? Is it a form of stealing, I don’t think so. For me, it’s a perfect act.
I was just watching “Syriana” with my friend and one of the memorable dialogues is still lingering in my head and it is about Corruption!!
"Corruption? Corruption ain't nothing more than government intrusion into market efficiencies in the form of regulation. That's Milton Friedman. He got a goddamn Nobel Prize. We have laws against it precisely so we can get away with it. Corruption is our protection. Corruption is what keeps us
safe and warm. Corruption is why you and I are prancing around here instead of fighting each other for scraps of meat out in the streets. Corruption is why we win."
I just thought, Isn’t it true? The last sentence is very important. We live in the age of cut-throat competition created by the market economies of capitalistic societies where it is all about Winning and Losing. We are in the Peter Drucker’s “Survival of the fittest” times where unfortunately, we don’t co-operate but we compete to survive.
It says & means a lot. Nothing is & won't be ideal & perfect, and if it is, then earth would be heaven and all of us would be angels but we all know that it is not the reality. Everyone can't be happy, there will be clashes & conflicts based on DESIRES & INTERESTS pursued by individuals, groups, states, nations. In order to resolve these conflicts, we have to make compromises & sacrifices and take actions which might contradict to the significance of “Protected Values” for the overall good; be it within your own organization or outside the organization and on a broader level in life and society.
This is a very broad subject and I can go on writing but this is a blog not a book, so I will leave it to you to think & interpret and make your own judgment on this issue.
